New love, same as the old love

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This article was published 05/06/2019 (2676 days ago), so information in it may no longer be current.

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: OK, this is really weird.

I recently met a man who reminded me of a childhood sweetheart who died a long time ago when we were both in our late teens.

He walks and talks and acts just like him, although he has a different body and his skin is a different colour. I’m divorced and in my late 40s. He’s single and in his 30s.

He’s about 12 years younger than I am, but it doesn’t matter somehow.

We were drawn to each other instantly and went out for dinner that very night. I had this strange feeling of “knowing” him from another place and time.

I found my courage and told him what I felt. He smiled broadly when I revealed my feelings and said he had this weird feeling too, that we had known each other before. Then, we hugged and kissed and have been glued to each other ever since.

We don’t care about the age difference, and I would marry this wonderful guy if he asked me.

I feel I’ve known him deeply, and it is not a “quickie” courtship, as someone in my family said.

The first time we made love, we both knew exactly what each other would like.

Do you believe in soulmates who meet each other in different lives, and sometimes meet again if one has died early and comes back in another body?

— Déjà Vu Amour, Downtown

Dear Déjà Vu: There’s a lot about this world none of us knows for sure.

I think it’s a miracle we’re even here.

If there can be one life for the soul in your body, who knows how many lifetimes a person could have — or maybe there’s just one?

I don’t pretend to know.

I’m just glad you found someone so well-suited to you and with whom you share a special bond.

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I got in a big fight with a co-worker and other people heard us yelling.

This didn’t go well for us and we got hauled in by our boss and sent down to human resources.

The HR woman is really good here and we ended up apologizing and making up that day, but other people haven’t forgotten it and talk to us separately like we’re still enemies.

How do we get people to realize we got past the fight and are the better for it?

We want everyone to go back to feeling they can talk to us both at the same time.

There is no divisiveness now.

How can we fix this unnecessary awkwardness?

— No Longer Enemies, The Maples

Dear No Longer Enemies: Go back to HR and the lady who was so helpful the first time and tell her about your new problem.

That fight still resounds in the heads of your co-workers, so maybe this problem needs a little group work so that your department can get back to normal again.

Your HR lady will know how to do that as it should be part of her training.

Please send your questions and comments to lovecoach@hotmail.com or Miss Lonelyhearts c/o the Winnipeg Free Press, 1355 Mountain Ave., Winnipeg, MB, R2X 3B6.

Miss Lonelyhearts
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