The birds! The birds! Nature Guy rediscovers joy

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This article was published 06/06/2019 (2675 days ago), so information in it may no longer be current.

DEAR MISS LONELYHEARTS: I left my window open last night, no screen on yet, because there’s really no bugs. But, guess what? A bird flew in, and there was a kerfuffle and I finally shooed him out, without any harm.

I used to be a real Nature Guy who went out walking in the woods alone or fishing and hiking with friends a lot. I realized when that bird got into my bedroom that I was missing something in my life. It was like a messenger. I went to bed praying my life would get better, as I’d become so bored with my computer job and living in the big cement city.

Thanks to that bird, I’m going to look for a place just outside the city beside the woods and get back to nature and birdwatching. I’ll be much happier, I know. I wonder how many times people get hints from God and nature and don’t act on them. I just wanted to pass this on to lonely people.

— Back to Nature Guy, Inner City Winnipeg

Dear Nature Guy: It’s great you took that bird’s entrance into your window for a “call of the wild.” You were looking for a different path in life. Who knows, you may have stumbled on other hints on other days, but didn’t recognize them. But that night, your brain was ready and focused on reviewing your past to rediscover what really would make you happy. That bird embodied your answer — one of life’s little miracles.

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: My heart is lonely because I’m a stupid guy. I wanted everything. I got married at 42. I left my wife at home alone night and day while I still did all my bachelor things — cars, sports, gambling, travelling — everything with the guys as usual.

When I came home last week, she was gone with a note on the kitchen table. She said, “You didn’t really mean to marry me and mess up your bachelor life.” She was moving out. I found her at her mom’s and begged her to “come home” but she said, “A house is not a home.”

I asked her if I changed, would she take me back again, and she said, “No, I don’t need to. I’m not desperate anymore.” I thought that was a funny thing to say, until I found out she had a new guy already. I’m going crazy wondering how long that’s been going on. What should I do about him?

— Bachelor Again, St. Boniface

Dear Bachelor: Never mind thinking about this other guy. Learn from your mistake and don’t blame it all on your lonely ex-wife. You kept on acting like a bachelor. She had no real husband in you.

Maybe you don’t want to be married and that’s OK. Maybe you’re a guy who has to be honest with women he meets and say you just need a girlfriend, but not a marriage. There are a fair number of divorced women who never want another husband again, for financial or other reasons — that kind of person might be good for you.

Please send your questions and comments to lovecoach@hotmail.com or Miss Lonelyhearts c/o the Winnipeg Free Press, 1355 Mountain Ave., Winnipeg, MB, R2X 3B6.

Miss Lonelyhearts
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