No surprise why wife moved out

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This article was published 08/05/2016 (3481 days ago), so information in it may no longer be current.

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I noticed the closet my wife and I shared was getting emptier and emptier, so I just figured she had moved her winter clothes down to the basement. Then she emptied out stuff from the basement (spring cleaning?). Then I came home a week ago and everything of hers was gone and there was a note and her wedding ring on the kitchen table. She had left me. I knew we weren’t getting along, but I still loved her!

She said she was moving to be with her parents (two provinces away), and not to come looking for her or she would call the police. I have to admit I got drunk a few times and she called me names, and I got physical with her, but she was looking for it. That happened a few months ago. I apologized and thought we were past all that, although she wasn’t turning to me for affection or sex. We don’t have any kids yet. What should I do next? I’m her husband and she should at least come home and talk things out with me.

— Hurt and Angry, Fort Rouge

Dear Hurt and Angry: You should both stay exactly where you are. Why would she come anywhere near you now? You’re lucky you didn’t get charged with assault after beating her. She wants to be safe with her parents, so she’s certainly not coming home to you. It was not a home to her after the assaults, anyway. Waiting for the next beating and walking on eggshells around you was too much to take. Face facts. It’s time to get a lawyer and get divorced, and you need anger-management help before you start up with anyone else.

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