It’s mind over matter with ‘mini’ member

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Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I’m a guy with what you would call very small equipment. It’s been a humiliating source of embarrassment for me, and it has held me back in dating. I eventually have to show what I don’t have, and the woman always looks kind of turned off. I don’t want to open myself to silent criticism anymore.

I’ve talked to other men anonymously on forums who tell me it isn’t the end of the world. Easy for them to say! I’ve had a couple of bad experiences already, and I fear there may be more in my future. What can I do?

Remedies online (suction devices, ‘medication’) look dangerous and are likely ineffectual. Are there women out there who don’t care about size?

— Big Guy with a Little Guy, Westwood

Dear Big Guy with a Little Guy: Some women care, others don’t. Women come in all sizes too, and some write me saying they’re unhappy with their mate’s large size, because sex with him hurts more than it feels good.

There are several non-surgical techniques for changing your experience to the positive. Some are simply different positioning that can change the whole sense of size and stimulation. Then you will know you can bring the magic and feel confident with a lady, instead of being embarrassed and apologetic, which only makes both of you feel awkward.

Check out psychologist Berit Brogaard’s Psychology Today article What To Do About a Small Penis, which is the most concise and helpful info I found in my research for you (wfp.to/whattodo). According to Brogaard, average erect penis size is a lot smaller than previously thought, mainly due to the fact it was based on self-measurement. It’s well worth reading and it’s not written in overly academic language.

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: My live-in boyfriend has stopped wanting to have sex, and I don’t know what to do. He hates talking about our relationship and the last four times I’ve begged him, “Make love with me, please!” he has barely looked at me and mostly just sighed. Sometimes he comes up with a lame reason.

He used to have a great sex drive, and couldn’t get enough of me. I’m worried he might be cheating on me, and getting all the sex he needs before he even gets home at 7 p.m. each night.

He claims he’s having to work late because they are down several in-house staff. I’m thinking he might be going somewhere between 4:30 p.m. (when his work normally lets out) and when he gets home.

A couple of times lately he’s come home and his hair is damp, like he just had a shower. This isn’t my first rodeo. I know what that might mean. I feel lost and scared.

How can I get him to open up? But maybe I don’t want him to open up and blow my whole life out of the water.

— Loving Him and Missing His Closeness, Osborne Village

Dear Missing His Closeness: The two hours missing in action, the tell-tale damp hair, and his total lack of desire for you when he is home are definitely clues to another woman taking your place.

Looking the other way isn’t working for you anymore, or you wouldn’t have written. You’ve been pretending not to know for a while now.

Did you know some cheaters feel they are being true to their lover by not having sex with their wife anymore? This may be the case here.

Have you considered having him followed from work? A friend or acquaintance he doesn’t know could do it for you.

You could also just start making plans to leave — or ask him to leave — and tell him you can’t tolerate his absence from the relationship. It hurts way too much.

I know that seems like a tough thing to do, but girlfriend, it seems you already lost his interest some time ago! Breaking up this relationship would help you make the changes to have peace of mind and to find real love.

Please send your questions and comments to lovecoach@hotmail.com or Miss Lonelyhearts c/o the Winnipeg Free Press, 1355 Mountain Ave., Winnipeg, MB, R2X 3B6.

Miss Lonelyhearts
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