Her passionate poem ended up in the trash

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Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I gave my boyfriend a passionate love poem written in purple ink and he didn’t say anything after he read it except, “Nice. You’re a good writer.”

Then last night, after I went to his apartment, made love with him and stayed overnight, I got up in the morning and noticed the corner of the poem sticking out of his bathroom garbage can. I fished the piece of paper out and it had a big blue toothpaste blob on it. I carried it to him, threw it on the bed and yelled, “We’re through!”

He looked at the paper beside his head, and said, “OK, whatever you say. I’m so tired. Call me later.” I haven’t.

The thing is I miss him and I don’t have any other guy in mind. I’m feeling very lonely and I have been crying in the bathroom between my classes at university. Should I break down and call him? — Lonely, University of Winnipeg

Dear Lonely: Don’t call this indifferent lout. He couldn’t even get out of bed to talk to you when you said you were breaking up with him. He saw the sticky letter on his bed and still hasn’t called to explain or apologize.

Bottom line: he wasn’t in love and your relationship was a mismatch. Proof: he gave you a cold, technical response when he read your love poem.

Yes, you’re lonely, but trying to get back with this non-lover gets in the way of you healing and finding a new loving guy, one who will welcome your poetry.

Know this: your next guy should be a bit artsy.

Picture the poem in the garbage with the toothpaste blob when you feel yourself starting to weaken.

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: Could you please print this before March 31? My wife has given me an ultimatum: either I agree to get with the program and try to have a baby by that date or she is taking her last birth control pill and I’m in control of preventing a pregnancy. I’m 37 and she’s turning 30 in April.

I feel I’m still too young to be tied to dependent little brats. It’s bad enough that I got myself emotionally involved and married, and I’m the true-blue type — that’s why I didn’t commit to anyone before I fell for this one. I love her. What should I do? — Up Against the Wall, St. Vital

Dear Up Against the Wall: Babies are actually fun for youthful adults, but by that I don’t mean spoiled adults. Babies will give you back your youth if you are willing to play with them. They will laugh at all your jokes and funny faces and look at you adoringly, like no woman ever has.

On the other hand, you can buy condoms, which are pretty good unless they slip off, accidentally spring a leak or your wife messes with them with a sharp pin. For a foolproof birth-control situation, you will also need a back-up spermicidal agent inserted in the vaginal canal. Good luck with that. Your wife isn’t likely to help.

Your wife is at an age where things are starting to change in terms of her ability to get pregnant and the health of the resulting baby. How about going for a talk with a relationship counsellor to work this out? Klinic at 545 Broadway offers free walk-in counselling. Call 204-784-4067 for hours.

Please send your questions and comments to lovecoach@hotmail.com or Miss Lonelyhearts c/o the Winnipeg Free Press, 1355 Mountain Ave., Winnipeg, MB, R2X 3B6

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