Ogling oily neighbour only feeds his ego

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Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I sit in the backyard on weekends when my husband is at work and watch the man who has moved in next door.

I have a happy marriage and we have a great sex life. My husband is a great guy with an average body, but he doesn’t show himself off like this guy does.

This one oils his whole body with his back turned to me and lies down on a recliner to bake it.

Sometimes he turns on his side on the recliner and I get a view of his muscled back and his large back tattoo. Other times he mows the lawn in a red string thing that must be a bathing suit.

I am always on my recliner in my yard hiding my eyes with big dark glasses. Yesterday he waved at me as he went by with the lawn mower and I almost lost it.

What should I do? I don’t want to ruin my marriage. I know this guy isn’t single and his girlfriend comes over sometimes. I don’t feel jealous of her, but I like to watch them. — Ungrateful Wife, Brandon

Dear Ungrateful Wife: Your neighbour sees you, even feels you, staring at him through your dark glasses, which probably shift slightly as he moves around the yard.

He may even take the girlfriend out in the backyard to put on a show with her meant to drive you crazy.

Here’s the bad part: they may both be laughing at you. Lying in the backyard watching this neighbour is just wasting your time and getting you further into trouble. It’s a dead-end hobby.

Try to understand this guy isn’t interested or he would have been over to talk over the fence with you by now. He’s not shy. It seems he’s just giving you a show and stroking his own ego.

Don’t throw a good marriage out over this poster boy. Start having a life on the weekends again, even if your husband has to work.

Meet with friends, shop, have fun, play sports, drive to a lake or rent a cabin on a weekend with girlfriends. You might even confess to your husband you really need some weekend time with him and see if he can change his schedule somewhat.

 

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: My grandmother left me some money in her will and my husband thinks I should give him half to spend as he wishes.

I told him I’m willing to spend the money on something for the two of us, but he’s not getting half of my granny’s money when he didn’t even pay any attention to her. I know he wants a convertible.

This has caused a real problem as he keeps bringing it up asking about his half of the money. What do you think I should do? I’m not even sure about the marriage anymore. — Granny’s Only Grandchild, Winnipeg

Dear Granny’s Only Grandchild: I sincerely doubt granny wanted to give your husband a pile of money to buy a car.

I actually doubt she wanted to give him anything, except the sharing of a better house for you and your children, should the marriage last.

See a domestic lawyer and an accountant, and have some serious talks about this money, should you stay together or part with your husband.

 

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I didn’t expect to come out of the closet, but it just happened. I got outed and I didn’t deny it.

I didn’t think it was important to come out because I didn’t have anyone I was looking at right now. If I did, I thought I wouldn’t know how to ask a guy out.

Anyhow, it got out and all of a sudden this guy I know asked me to have dinner with him and we did and it was great.

He said, when we parted: “I appreciate you’re just newly out and might be feeling ambivalent and I don’t want to rush you, so you call me when you want to see me again.”

It’s two days later and I’m dying to call him. What should I do and what should I say? — Feeling Shy, But Interested, St. Boniface

Dear Feeling Shy, But Interested: Just call him up and say, “Hello it’s me,” and he will probably take it from there. He remembers what the deal was and you have called. He’ll just be happy you made that decision.

“Want to go out and do something together?” is a broad enough question to ask him. You can both figure out somewhere to go from there.

Good luck!

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