Wife turned off by horsey ride on husband

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Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: My husband suggested we use the cabin to spark up our sex lives while the kids were at camp. The first thing he brought out was a small saddle and he wanted to behave like a stallion while I rode him around the room.

I thought it was so silly I could barely keep from laughing, but this was a fulfillment of his long-held desire.

After, he said it really hurt his knees and he wasn’t sure he wanted to do that again, but he had other ideas and all the props were in the trunk of his car.

I told him I wasn’t up for being the person who had to do all his experiments, so now he’s sulking. I don’t know how to end this stalemate. Crazy sex won’t go over well at home with teens in the house. Help! — The Spoilsport, Lake Winnipeg

Dear Spoilsport: This is a one-sided experiment, so naturally it’s uncomfortable. You co-operated with his first fantasy and it didn’t work well, so it’s off the list. Now it’s time for one of yours, from wild and fiery, to rose petals and handsome prince.

Alternate when the teenagers are out for the evening. Your fantasy comes next, and then it’s your husband’s turn a week or more later.

Be sure to have regular sex in between, as the continued glue of your marriage. Between the two of you, you could develop a new repertoire of fantasy scenes you both enjoy.

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: My friend of 20 years blew up at me during one of our regular outings. She was telling me a story and I heard a big noise, and looked away to see what it was. She was offended and told me she was sick of my face and taking care of me.

She’s the one that calls me every morning to go out for coffee, to the bank or shopping with another friend. I do little things for them and sometimes pay for meals. She told me they could find someone else for our little group.

I don’t want to hurt her and she has been a good friend. Maybe she just needed to lash out at someone, or she meant everything she said and she’s tired of picking me up.

I am the one who loses most. She said she’s sorry and she didn’t mean it.— Sorry Too, Rural Manitoba

Dear Sorry Too: Now that both of you have had time to cool down and you’re both sorry, good! It’s time to pick up the phone and invite her and the other friend over to your place for coffee and a game of cards.

Maybe she is tired of always picking you up, or maybe you do get bored of her stories, and look away more often than you realize.

So you must start initiating outings and entertainment at home where you are the hostess and do 50 per cent of the inviting. Balance out that social scene by being more engaging from your end. Good luck!

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: This is for the woman called In Love With a Stinker. Her man won’t wear antiperspirants, and plain deodorants aren’t strong enough to stop his body odour.

Lots of people refuse to use antiperspirants because they contain so much aluminum, and there is some concern about a possible increase in breast-cancer risk.

The solution: baking soda. Just put it on over the regular deodorant. You will still have to wash, but it will make a great difference.

I am a big fan of baking soda, and use it every day with deodorant. — Smelling Great, Winnipeg

Dear Smelling Great: Thanks for the suggestion. Baking soda is a chemical, too, but gentler than many. Just don’t cake it on.

Also, people should soap up, shower it off and be free from anything in those underarm pores when there’s no one around to offend, as our pores are there for a reason and should not be sealed off for 24-48 hours as some products boast.

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