Sail off into the sunset with past cruise partner

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This article was published 23/09/2017 (2953 days ago), so information in it may no longer be current.

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I met a man almost four years ago on a singles’ cruise and he quickly hooked up with a woman on the ship. They were both from the same country and spoke Spanish.

By the third day, he and I were looking at each other with longing eyes and danced together many times at the disco. He and his original woman parted. She found a wealthy guy in the bar who was not part of the singles group.

The man and I came together passionately on our last weekend on the seas and it was wonderful and everything you would want in a romance, except for easy verbal communication. I went home and took Spanish lessons, and loved it.

We wrote each other online, but it eventually faded out as we weren’t together. We kept each other’s contact info current, but that was about it.

This week, I signed up for a cruise and boldly wrote him to say I would be on it and asked if he would be like to join the singles’ group with me and have some fun.

He wrote me back and said he didn’t want to be with a singles’ group and me, but just with me alone. He said he would sign up for the regular cruise that same week and book a beautiful room, and I could join him there.

He told me to make the decision for him, saying if I liked the idea or not. — Should I or Shouldn’t I? Winnipeg

Dear Should I or Shouldn’t I: You can take a chance on high romance, or play it safe and tell him you don’t like the pressure of him renting a fancy cabin and just coming because of you.

But why would you do that? Adventure is calling you, and you two already know how attracted you are to each other in person.

This could be a perfect situation. Of course, hang onto your own room and also make friends in the singles’ group. You and your cruise mate should not be together 24/7, and that’s a good thing when you’re not man and wife or even girlfriend/boyfriend at present. You’re not used to living together closely on top of each other, as it were. But you can spend a lot of time together and have a nice big stateroom to play in.

You have plenty of backup if the romance goes down — a group of single friends to do things with and a bed you’ve already paid for. Him going is not going to cost you one cent more, and we already know he has enough money to afford his luxury cabin.

It’s a well-known fact there are more women than men on singles’ cruises, and here you have a very good chance of having a fantastic romance with someone you already know, and are very attracted to.

Why not tell him enthusiastically to come? It’s a life adventure, after all!

 

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I just moved into a new two-bedroom apartment and the couple from hell is living beneath me. Our rooms match exactly, so my bedroom is above their bedroom. I don’t know what exactly is going on down there, but I can’t take the happy screaming noises, slamming sounds and loud music.

I phoned my super last night and she came over and I invited her to come and listen. She said she could try to find me another place, but then the same thing would happen to the next person. She suggested I change my bedroom with the room I use for my office like the people before me did.

I told her I shouldn’t have to do that and they should be warned or kicked out. It turns out she’s scared to talk to them because they look like goths and have tattoos. He rides a motorcycle, if that means anything.

At any rate, I’m miserable and have 11 months to go on this lease. What should I do? — Going Nuts, Downtown

Dear Going Nuts: See the owners of the block for a face-to-face appointment. Explain you got the apartment under false pretenses since it was known by the superintendent who showed it to you to have a serious noise problem from the people below.

Insist on a move within the block or to another property if they own others.

Living with bad neighbours is serious. It can give a person high blood pressure, anxiety and fatigue from loss of sleep, which is not good for your work.

Forget stubborn pride and fighting to get these noisy people kicked out. Take yourself out of the equation ASAP by getting yourself moved elsewhere and back to having sleep and peace.

In the meantime, put your bed in the other bedroom, or even in the living room, buy good earplugs and start getting some rest before you crack.

 

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I sat beside a very fat man at a concert recently and he took up part of my seat with his huge arms and shoulders. I didn’t know the man I was jammed up against.

I extricated myself from the seat, went down to the ticket office and complained, and my friend and I got other seats further back.

The next time I buy tickets, what should I do? I love going out to live events and spend most of my disposable income on it, but I resent paying big bucks and getting seated beside a fat person who hangs over his allotted seat.

I felt like saying, “Could you please lose some weight before you come to another concert?” Sorry to be so blunt. — Normal-Sized Fan, St. Vital

Dear Normal-Sized Fan: One way to make sure there’s a little more room is to choose the end seat on a row. You’ll have to put up with people edging past you to get to their seats, but you will be able to relax one arm, and if you’re average-sized yourself, you can scuttle over.

Anybody else in Reader Land have some ideas?

Please send your questions and comments to lovecoach@hotmail.com or Miss Lonelyhearts c/o the Winnipeg Free Press, 1355 Mountain Ave., Winnipeg, MB, R2X 3B6.