Sister stunt a sign ex-boyfriend is bottoming out

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DEAR MISS LONELYHEARTS: I just broke up with a guy who needs his head examined! He says he has always liked one of my sisters (“the good-looking one”) better than me, but she was taken, so he dated me instead.

Now she’s free and he says he’s going to call her. I said, “Go ahead, call her! She won’t like that, you idiot, but find out for yourself.”

So, he got drunker than usual and did it, and she called him every swear word in the book.

Ha! Last night he called me back (drunk again — he’s an alcoholic at 19) and accused me of setting her up to curse him out. He keeps calling and calling — 20 times a day. How do I get rid of this idiot for good?

— Ready to Scream, St. Boniface

Dear Ready To Scream: You should block his number and threaten him with harassment charges if he doesn’t leave you alone. You might also call his parents and suggest he needs an intervention and some time at a rehab treatment centre. Describe his behaviour in detail.

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I’m a recently divorced man who was married to a woman. I’m now interested in seeing men. I’ve had these feelings all my life and want to explore them, but I’m very intimidated.

I’m a quiet guy, and to say some of my co-workers are pretty toxic about gay people is putting it lightly. I’m nervous about coming out, and even more nervous about going to LGBTQ bars.

I downloaded a gay dating app, but online isn’t really my thing. I’m only 35, but I feel ancient on dating apps. I’ve read your column for a long time and you’re pretty progressive. What do you suggest for someone looking to keep things somewhat discreet, but still meet some new people?

— New on the Scene, Winnipeg

Dear New: Before COVID-19 arrived, the Rainbow Alliance for Men usually met at the Rainbow Resource Centre in Osborne Village.

The centre is a place for all LGBTTQ+ (lesbian, gay, bisexual, two spirit, trans, queer and questioning people) “to come together in a safe, comfortable and inclusive environment.” For info on all they have to offer, visit rainbowresourcecentre.org.

Before the pandemic, the Rainbow Alliance for Men met every second Sunday, 6:30-9 p.m., in the Qube at the Rainbow Resource Centre. The meetings were a good place to talk with experienced people and decide the degree of socializing you want to do, as well as how, where and when. You can still get help by phone, so don’t hesitate to call the Rainbow Resource Centre.

Please send your questions and comments to lovecoach@hotmail.com or Miss Lonelyhearts c/o the Winnipeg Free Press, 1355 Mountain Ave., Winnipeg, MB, R2X 3B6.

Miss Lonelyhearts
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