Creature comfort could help lonely kid

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DEAR MISS LONELYHEARTS: Our little son just loves girls. He gets “crushes” on girl playmates, cousins, teachers and babysitters, and tells me he “loves” them.

Our little Romeo has no siblings. Could this be the problem? He told me yesterday he wants to get married, like Mommy and Daddy. Do you think he’s lonely? His dad and I love him very much, and he knows it.

We were wondering if we maybe need to have another baby and provide a sibling. We’ve kind of let the second-baby thing slip. Our little fellow started school last year, though it wasn’t much of a start with the pandemic.

— Little Romeo’s Worried Mom, Winnipeg

Dear Romeo’s Mom: Your little guy longs for close companionship, like you and your husband have. He may have looked at you two, and figured out he needed a girl, fast.

If getting another child into the house is the issue, and you want to have a second baby, that could be good for your little guy. It’s not easy being an only child; it can feel pretty lonely. But if you don’t really want another baby, don’t do it out of duty.

There is another way to get more heartbeats in the house. You don’t mention any pets. A female puppy called Juliet might be good company! Or a kitten or two — maybe the whole crew at once.

Fill the house with pets, action, affection and fun, and Little Romeo might stop feeling so needy.

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I read the letter from “Still Got It” and I empathize with this man who wants a woman 20 years younger. (I suggested it might be a possibility, if an older guy is youthful looking, well-built, adventurous and has a decent income. —Miss L.)

I’m also somewhat older and looking for a younger woman because, in my humble opinion, a younger woman has the energy — the “joie de vivre.” But, like the U2 song goes, “I still haven’t found what I’m looking for.”

I’m not a sugar daddy! But I’m not giving up on looking for that certain wonderful younger woman. I’m too stubborn and optimistic. I think there is indeed someone out there for me. Please tell “Still Got It” not to give up.

— Also Got It, Winnipeg

Dear Also Got It: Thankfully, this is not Hollywood. Most single women in Winnipeg aren’t looking for “sugar daddies,” but they really don’t want older guys who aren’t willing to commit and can’t step up to the plate to help with family expenses. Otherwise, the ladies might as well stay single or keep looking for another partner.

Just like “Still Got It,” you also sidestepped the issue of how old you actually are — and hinted you want a woman with a strong sex drive.

Most single-again women of any age also wish for a better sex-life situation than they had in the last relationship. It’s only natural, but it’s also a serious time of life for them.

Lots of adult women (30s to 50s) already have kids, and many have ex-husbands or sometimes baby daddies they didn’t marry.

Some also need a strong new man who can deal with a difficult ex, if need be.

So where does an older guy find younger-women possibilities for relationships?

Some attractive older guys might be a single mom’s co-worker, but that’s a difficult place to start a romance. Better places to meet available women are through charity events, arts activities or the gym. What have you been doing to find younger unattached women so far? It takes extra looking, not extra wishing, to make it happen with that age gap.

Please send your questions and comments to lovecoach@hotmail.com or Miss Lonelyhearts c/o the Winnipeg Free Press, 1355 Mountain Ave., Winnipeg, MB, R2X 3B6.

Miss Lonelyhearts
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