Fighting for your man a waste of time, airfare

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Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I’m 22 and deeply, madly, forever in love with my boyfriend, who is working way up north this fall. I thought I had nothing to fear when he went up to that God-forsaken territory, but he is in a small town and very hot-looking, and another woman is trying to steal him from me.

I can afford to go up there and fight to get him back because I have some savings. He isn’t coming back to Winnipeg where his brothers live for at least another month. He told me we were finished during a fight on the phone, but I’m not a quitter and he’s probably just lonely.

I want to go up there to fight for him, and his new girlfriend is going to get a few punches in the face from me. My best friend says I’m a “fool for love” and going there would be a big waste of money and time off work, and I could get in trouble with the law. What do you think? They probably don’t even have any law around there. Should I buy the ticket and fly up there to get my man back?

— Want What’s Mine, North End

Dear Want What’s Mine: Here’s a little surprise — he is not your property to reclaim. You don’t own the man, and he has chosen to break up with you already. He has a right to do that and not be harassed or stalked. It’s a total waste of time and a lot of money to fly up north and chase after him. He may refuse to have anything to do with you — perhaps not even speak to you — once you show up. He’s likely to be embarrassed (because everybody knows everybody in small communities) and say, “Take the first plane back to Winnipeg and don’t bother me.” Imagine how that would feel if he did that!

If you decide to go anyway — and you might — whatever you do up there, don’t go looking for him and his new girlfriend at the bar, local café or her house. If you do run into her somewhere, such as her front doorstep, at least keep your fists to yourself. You could get thrown in jail for hitting your ex or his woman, and small towns usually have small jails. Assault is a serious crime, and it extends to both men and women in case you’re mistakenly thinking that a woman hitting another woman is like a movie-style cat fight and doesn’t count.

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