No need to stick around for annual ghost visit

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DEAR MISS LONELYHEARTS: I have a problem with a ghost visitation. She only manifests herself once a year, so I’m writing you trying to get some idea of what to do on Oct. 31. Someone must have died in this old house on that date many decades ago.

It was not a violent death, it seems, but a sad one for her, so she comes back, over and over again.

Many people died at home in those days. I am not afraid it was murder.

Still, since I bought the house, I’ve awoken in the middle of the night on those nights, and have seen this ghostly presence crying over someone.

I have never spoken to her, but I’ve read that I should tell the ghost to go away, that there is no one left for them here. What do you think?

— Needing Support, Downtown

Dear Needing Support: If you really hate this annual occurrence, you could stay at a friend’s house on Halloween and skip the visits altogether. But, I suspect you are somewhat fascinated. Frankly, I don’t know what I believe, although the Irish in my family tell stories of seeing ghosts.

Since you’re not really scared, try speaking up this year. In case you get nervous and “lose it” in the moment, write down what you want to say on a piece of paper and keep it ready in your hand.

You could also look up a local “ghostbuster” online, if you believe in that, and are willing to pay a fee to have the ghost banished.

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: My girlfriend went off to a university in Ontario in September and I did not hear much from her until she came home for Thanksgiving. She seemed to warm up when she saw me, and slept with me again, and I didn’t get the “turkey dump” as so many university students do at Thanksgiving.

Now, weeks later, I’ve been calling her a lot, and she’s acting distant again. Since she’s a very sexual girl, I imagine she misses my loving arms and other parts, more than hearing my voice on the phone. I’m starting to get mad.

While shopping for a Halloween costume for a bar party, I met a girl who really intrigued me and she invited me to a Halloween party at her place. I don’t know one person who’s going, but I figured I could go in costume with a mask and then, if I felt really out of place, slip out unnoticed. What do you think?

— Halloween Temptation, University of Manitoba

Dear Temptation: Since you liked her and she invited you to her Halloween gig, say hello to her when you go in disguise, and tell her who you are. If you feel lonely and out of place, slip her your full name so she can reach you on Facebook, as well as your cell number, and then leave mysteriously.

Consider having a reckoning ASAP with your out-of-town girlfriend. Tell her you notice she’s been distancing herself again and you think that both of you should be free to date other people, but remain friends. That doesn’t mean the kind of friends who call each other every night. You both need to be free.

If she comes back in the spring, you may decide you want to start seeing each other again. 

People who are apart for eight months usually know if they are fine with it or are really missing the other person badly. If you’re both missing each other and it gets serious, one person needs to move to the other’s city next fall. A relationship can only take so much wear and tear.

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Miss Lonelyhearts
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