Don’t let winter cool you down

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DEAR MISS LONELYHEARTS: I’ve had a hot long-distance relationship with a man in Alberta the past five months, but I sense a cooling as this frigid winter weather takes over. I don’t really understand it, but both of us get frustrated at the lack of touch. When the weather was decent, we travelled to see each other.

The recent frigid temperatures seem to be having an effect on our phone relationship, too. He’s hibernating with his favourite TV shows and sports and I’m doing a little of the same on this end with mystery books and overeating. But there’s no reason he couldn’t pick up the phone like he always did before!

I don’t know when to call him if he doesn’t phone and let me know he misses me. Isn’t calling better left to the guy, so he doesn’t think I’m desperate and chasing him? What do you think? We are in our early 50s.

— Long-Distance Freeze Out, Selkirk

Dear Freeze Out: Whatever you do, don’t dump your man during a super cold snap! Why give in to the feelings of Old Man Winter? It will only make you feel worse if you break up at this time.

Turn this around. When your long-distance love calls, do you feel he’s desperate and chasing you? Hardly! Don’t waste your precious time waiting for him to call first. Just pick up the phone and see how he’s doing, and don’t complain about him not phoning as much.

People often get depressed and turn inwards when it gets cold, as it sometimes feels dangerous to go out anywhere or extend yourself.

Fight these feelings with warmth and laughter. That may be all you both need to stir the pot and get it boiling again.

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I put my back out having sex. I’ve been to a chiropractor and had it realigned, and am just recuperating. He didn’t say not to have sex.

My wife of one year thinks it’s her fault and is acting like an old nurse instead of a young sex partner. I don’t need constant questioning like, “Are you sure you should be doing that?” or “Maybe you should give it a few more weeks.” Does this sound like a woman with a strong sex drive? Where did my sexy wife go? I don’t like the grumpy nurse who has taken up residence on the other side of the bed. Please help.

— Lost My Sex Partner, Wolseley

Dear Lost: Next time you go for an adjustment, bring your wife with you and talk with the chiropractor about sex and your back. Let your wife ask all her worried questions and get answers.

There may be some sexual positions that are better than others as the back returns to normal. Certainly, there are some fun activities your wife could initiate that would be easier on your back than others.

Do you suspect your wife is using this back issue as an excuse to get out of having sex? Take a deep breath and ask her nicely what else might be bothering her. Working a problem out could be the aphrodisiac you both need to get back into a warm sexual relationship.

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I’m an elderly fellow with a receding hairline who had to retire early due to health circumstances, and subsequently receive a very low fixed pension. I’ve been having my hair cut by the same hairdresser for more than 40 years and always tip her a couple of dollars for excellent service.

In the past two years, the price increased from $20 to $25 while my pension income is actually receding, like my hairline. Would it be inappropriate to discontinue tipping my hairdresser? Thank you for your opinion.

— Need to Cut Back, Winnipeg

Dear Need: If you want to stay with the same stylist, explain you still like her work, but on your pension, you can’t afford to tip at the new price. She’s likely to be understanding, but if that doesn’t go over well, you’ll have to find a more affordable hairdresser.

Please send your questions and comments to lovecoach@hotmail.com or Miss Lonelyhearts c/o the Winnipeg Free Press, 1355 Mountain Ave. Winnipeg, MB, R2X 3B6.

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