Bar pickup more than he bargained for

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Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I know some people are just going to think I’m bragging, but I’m not. Two attractive women at the bar in a Winnipeg hotel where I was staying asked me (after a night of drinking) if they could join me in my room. Like a dummy, I said, “Sure, why not?” 

One looked at the other and smiled. I paid the bill and we went up to my room. Once inside, they put their coats down and laid on either side of the bed and patted the spot in the middle. I nervously ordered up some food. Well, that only staved things off a bit, and I ended up in the first threesome of my life.

Being a total nerd and first-timer, I thought the experience was great fun. But to make an embarrassing story short, they set me straight, and both left with $100, because that’s all I had I in my wallet.  They acted shocked that I didn’t know they were pros, and said I “owed” them the money. I’m too embarrassed to tell anybody at the hotel.

I don’t have a wife and family and am starting to travel a lot for work. Winnipeg will be a frequent destination. I always stop at the hotel bar for a drink or two, rather than stay in my room all night. These are my questions for you: did the bartender know? Should I avoid that hotel, which is my favourite? Should I ask any woman I meet at a hotel bar if she’s actually a prostitute?

— Not So Innocent Guy

Dear Not So Innocent: Two women coming into the bar together would look a little more innocent to a bartender than one lady all dolled up looking for company. So it isn’t necessarily the staff’s fault you were tricked. Plus, you did agree to go upstairs with the two ladies you just met that night, and not likely for tea and crumpets.

You should know you’re not totally private in a bar. Both the bartender and the serving staff overhear snatches of conversations and have an idea what’s going on with different patrons around the bar.

In your case, they may or may not have been aware of this duo and what they were up to. If you go back there and the same ladies come in, wave them off, should they try to sit down. Also, quietly advise wait staff about what the women are up to. That’s about all you can do, without making a fuss.

Be very careful about taking strangers of any kind up to your room. If you’re single and going to travel, develop friendships online with people in the cities you’re visiting and meet them for coffee or a drink outside the hotel. Who knows, you may find real romance.

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I’m mad at my girlfriend and have started yelling in my sleep. I’m mad because after I agreed to let her live with me in my nice big house (with pool), she immediately quit her job. I pay the mortgage and utilities myself and she kicks in a little money for food she likes. She just lies around the place all day binge-watching TV, so I started calling her names. She has responded by not responding to me in bed.

Last night I sat up in my sleep, called her lazy and yelled at her to “get out of my house.” She slept on the couch after that. The next morning, she told me what I had yelled. I was talking in my sleep, which I’ve done in times of stress all my life. What should I do now? Like the Stones said, “I used to love her, but it’s all over now.”

— Wanting Her Out, River Heights

Dear Out: Tell her you no longer love her and that she needs to find a new place ASAP. Then call her friends and family and tell them you have asked her to leave and she needs a place to live. That should help get the ball rolling and is much better than letting her keep it a secret.

In the meantime, move her into a different bedroom so she can’t bother you when you’re sleeping — and you can yell in your sleep all you like. Good luck with this!

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