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DEAR MISS LONELYHEARTS: I just attended a music festival in the rural town where I grew up, and this woman dancing at the front by the band turned out to be my ex from years ago.

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DEAR MISS LONELYHEARTS: I just attended a music festival in the rural town where I grew up, and this woman dancing at the front by the band turned out to be my ex from years ago.

She still has an excellent body 20 years later, and I could see her black bra and panties showing through her see-through black summer pants and top.

This was the sexy, alcoholic girl who cheated on me when I was a young man, and I blew up over it and almost got in trouble with the authorities.

I look really young for my age, too. I was just sitting there watching the musicians and it seemed she was showing off on the dance floor for me, wiggling her butt in my direction and so on.

There were only unattractive old couples sitting anywhere near me.

I walked away without approaching her, but it sure felt like she was targeting me. She married the guy she cheated on me with, and now they are separated, I hear.

I don’t know what her game was at that festival, but it brought back a lot of memories, including the hot sex we used to have. Why was she doing that?

— Feeling Jerked Around, Rural Manitoba

Dear Jerked Around: If you were actually her target, not her most recent sex partner, then she was doing that because she thought she’d test out her power over you. She wanted to see if she could make you come panting back for more of her “charms,” even though she hurt you badly.

She was able to decimate you once over sex and her cheating, and perhaps wanted to re-test her sexual powers.

You were right to walk away. Too bad you didn’t do it sooner. Expect her to invade your dream space in the next week or so, but realize the dreams come from feeling teased and frustrated. Remember this about her: she may look hot, but she’s just trouble.

 

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: There’s a boy from my school who’s been following me. It creeps me out.

How do I get him to stop? He lives near me, and has followed me home almost every day for a month.

We are in junior high and he’s my age. How do I get him to stop?

— Hate This So Much, Winnipeg

Dear Hate This: Go to your school guidance counsellor and your parents and ask for help. This boy probably has a big crush on you and doesn’t know how to get closer.

You know this boy because he’s in your classes, so you might just say to him, “Stop following me after school.” He’ll probably say, “You’re nuts. I’m not following you!” — but he’ll never follow you again.

Too shy to do that? A student counsellor would have access to this boy and could help… or one or both of your parents might also be able to help. Don’t keep it to yourself anymore, whatever you do.

 

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: It’s been 25 long years and I’m so bored with my marriage. My wife treats me like I’m another one of the kids. How can I get her to stop that?

— Pushing 45, Brandon

Dear Pushing 45: Whenever she does that, stop her by saying in a half-humorous voice: “Do I look so young and handsome you have mistaken me for one of the teenagers?” Do it often enough and it will finally erupt into the fight you two need to have.

Maybe you’ve been treating her like momma, not doing your part around the place, and maybe you’ve even been referring to her as mom (instead of “your mom”) to the kids. That’s a quick way to make some women feel less like your lover and more like an overall mom in your family.

Could be it’s time to start dating again — each other — for shows, concerts, drinks, dinners, sports and weekend trips. Good luck!

Please send your questions and comments to lovecoach@hotmail.com or Miss Lonelyhearts c/o the Winnipeg Free Press, 1355 Mountain Ave., Winnipeg, MB, R2X 3B6.

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