Girl has sinister plan to grab big sister’s man

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DEAR MISS LONELYHEARTS: I’m tired of waiting for my sister to dump her boyfriend so I can have him. I’m ready to make my move. We live on a farm and he comes out to see her and sometimes they stay here when my parents are away.

They pretend to go out to see the horses and end up in the hayloft doing you-know-what. If I tell on my sister, she won’t be allowed to see this guy again, and then I can go after him in about six months, in the fall, when she’ll be over him. That’s my plan. What do you think?

— Little Sister, The Country

Dear Little Sister: Bad plan! If your parents find out what this boy is doing with their daughter, he won’t be allowed to see her younger sister — that’s you. He won’t even be allowed near your house. Even if they are not caught and your sister breaks up with him herself, she won’t want you to start dating her former property. So forget this guy and focus on someone else your own age that may be a bit like him, and maybe even look a bit like him.

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I’m a single mom, mid-30s, always hoping to find a real guy that I could spend the rest of my life with. I went for a few dates and always fell for the wrong person, or we went too fast, and ended up in bed after a few dates.

Two years ago, I met a guy from a dating site. He’s a young guy of another religion. We saw each other either at my place or at his place, and it lasted for almost a year. I was OK with that setup, and when we started just texting each other, I was also OK until I found out that he’s all over the dating site. I was so angry at that time, felt betrayed, you name it.

I took revenge on him for “playing” me. I made a fake account and sent his intimate pictures to one of his family members. I knew he’d be in trouble for doing that, and he caught me. After that, we parted ways. Ever since, he’s still in my heart and mind. Months ago I contacted him again. I couldn’t stop thinking about him. We both agreed that we will be in a friends-with-benefits stage. I’m trying not to be attached to him emotionally, but still hoping one day things will go well for both of us.

Recently, I called his business, not knowing it was his direct number. He answered and said I was harassing him, but that was not my intention. He got mad, and now we’re not on good terms. I want to talk to him, but I have pride too, and don’t want him to think I’m harassing him. But I do miss him.

— Needing Advice, Winnipeg

Dear Needing: Try to think about this as if you’re in school. It’s the end of two years, and you didn’t get a good grade to begin with. In fact, your marks have gone down a grade with each rash thing you do. He will never take you seriously now, though he selfishly thought he’d agree to some free sex (friends with benefits). Then, when you called, he felt you were stalking him at work.

He doesn’t want to see you now, and he has every right to say no and not be harassed. You need to get some counselling to help stabilize your behaviour. You are acting as if there’s only one guy left in the world and he’s it. Thankfully, there are millions more.

P.S. You should know that stalking is against the law, and you could get into serious trouble, so leave him alone.

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