Underwear a turn-on until in laundry pile

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Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: My husband, whose job is to do the laundry, refuses to touch my lingerie to put it in the washing machine. His attitude is “Eww, disgusting!” I never had that attitude to his underwear when I was off work and I was doing all the wash. Now he’s working part time and looking after our baby and I’m working full time. I know it will only take a matter of minutes to put my lingerie pile in the wash, but it really bugs me that he’s got his hands all over my body pulling my lingerie off and yet he’s so disgusted with it. I’ve told him this, and a certain chill has descended on the bedroom. Advice please? — My Undies Are Not Repulsive, St. Boniface

Dear My Undies Are Not Repulsive: For some people, there’s a big difference between warm lingerie coming off in the bed and cold laundry that’s been worn, now lying on the floor. To make this easy for everybody, get a laundry bag for your undies and he can toss everything straight into the machine from the upturned bag. Or buy two, and you can both do your own.

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I like to go out on Friday nights, drink with my buddies at this certain club and chase women. I have done it since I was 18 and now I’m 27 with a new steady girlfriend. She recently figured out about the boys getting together for this on Friday nights after talking to my best friend’s girlfriend.

She sneaked into the club unnoticed last Friday and watched me in action. It was about 11:30 p.m. and the bar was full and I was dancing with assorted women.

I had a date to go over and see her at about 10:30 p.m. and had forgotten the time. I noticed her when she was on the dance floor with a guy, and they were grinding. She is a gorgeous lady and she was all done up. The guy was very turned on by her. I walked straight over, whirled her around, and said “Hey! What do you think you’re doing?” and the guy told me to get my hands off her. I said she was my girlfriend and he said, “You don’t treat her like she is,” and walked off. She said. “He’s right. We’re done.” Then she left. Now, how do I get her back? — Missing Her a Lot, Downtown

Dear Missing Her A Lot: Can you imagine how humiliated she felt by what that guy said? He pounded home what she already suspected. Don’t even ask for a second chance. You don’t deserve it. You don’t really want a mutually serious relationship. You just want a girlfriend to be at home Friday night, remaining true, while you go out and hustle women in public like you always did. It doesn’t matter if you don’t have sex with ladies anymore. You’re still out disrespecting your girlfriend every Friday night, and then going over for sex, if you remember. Take a few more years to really grow up. You’ve wrecked things with this lady.

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I’m extremely worried about my friend. First, it’s her constant lies to me and others, plus her attitude and bossiness. I’m more concerned about her stealing from people she knows, as she loves to snoop in peoples’ homes and takes things when they’re out of sight, then brags and laughs about it. Recently, she stole a plate and bowl from a Tim Hortons. There are many things in her home I know she didn’t buy, plus things have been missing from my home, too. Please advise as to where we can get help for her. Thank you. — Worried, Winnipeg

Dear Worried: Why is she still your friend? Stay away from her because she’s already stealing from you. Someday you might end up being with her when she gets caught and the authorities will think you are part of a partnership. She’s also adept at lying, so she might say you’re doing the stealing to save her own skin. When you stop seeing her, tell her bluntly it’s because of the stealing and lying, and she needs to see her doctor and get a referral to a psychologist or psychiatrist. It’s not up to you to push any further. She has to want it, and go after it herself.

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