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Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: A few weeks ago, I found out a guy who was pursuing me hotly had a wife and children. I was not invested in him emotionally, as he felt too anxious to seal the deal, but I had been to bed with him when he came to the city. He lives in a small town, but wouldn’t tell me the name. The third time he slept over, I waited until he was asleep and searched his pants and wallet.

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Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: A few weeks ago, I found out a guy who was pursuing me hotly had a wife and children. I was not invested in him emotionally, as he felt too anxious to seal the deal, but I had been to bed with him when he came to the city. He lives in a small town, but wouldn’t tell me the name. The third time he slept over, I waited until he was asleep and searched his pants and wallet.

I found out the town’s name, his address, pictures of his wife and kids, his business and loyalty cards and even a pay stub. When he woke up, he couldn’t find his clothes because I had heaved them out in the front yard. He ran out in a towel to get them. I didn’t care what the neighbours saw. I’m single and innocent. When he was leaving, I told him I had already called his wife and she could hardly wait to see him! (That wasn’t actually true, but his face changed colours several times.)

I haven’t heard from him since. Should I actually call his wife?

— To Out or Not To Out, Winnipeg

 

Dear Out or Not: You should care more about protecting the kids than causing this jerk trouble. If this interaction with you scares him enough, he night be a decent dad to those children for a few more years. They will most certainly have more money with their dad home than if he was out of the house. And they will not have to witness the terrible fight and the separation of their parents — at least not yet.

If he ever calls again — click!

 

Please send your questions and comments to lovecoach@hotmail.com or Miss Lonelyhearts c/o the Winnipeg Free Press, 1355 Mountain Ave., Winnipeg, MB, R2X 3B6

 

 

 

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Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: A few weeks ago, I found out a guy who was pursuing me hotly had a wife and children. I was not invested in him emotionally, as he felt too anxious to seal the deal, but I had been to bed with him when he came to the city. He lives in a small town, but wouldn’t tell me the name. The third time he slept over, I waited until he was asleep and searched his pants and wallet.

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