Wife sweeps away questions about curling league

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Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: My wife says she goes curling with her friends a number of times a week, and I believed her. But not this year! Last year, she would come home and I could smell the rink and cold air on her jacket, but lately she smells of cigar smoke. She’s vague about one of the leagues she’s in and things are not hitting me right. Last time she came home on a curling night, she was very late, and when I asked her when the games ended she was vague, and when I asked her what they did after, she said “nothing important,” and hurried off to her computer room.

I’m suspicious, not by nature, but because I used to fool around. When she found out and left me for a few weeks, I went crazy and swore myself onto the straight and narrow path. I can’t bear to lose her again, but it’s not fair if she’s playing around and I’m not having recreational sex with anyone else, just being true to her. What should I do?

— Upset Husband, Windsor Park

Dear Upset Husband: You might tell her she’s acting like you used to act when you were cheating, and wonder if she’s seeing somebody. Tell her, “I really hope not because I’m being true and I want to stay with you.” That should soften the questioning a little.

You may think you don’t have a leg to stand on, but you do. You’re playing by the rules of the marriage game now, and you need to know if things have changed on her side. No matter what she says, tell her you need time to think. Then write back with what she says, for further help. There are several ways you could go here without losing her.

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