Infection puts a damper on couple’s sex life

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Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I have had vaginal problems that have prevented me from being a dependable lover to my boyfriend. Also, the doctor suspects we have been unknowingly playing vaginitis ping-pong, passing the infection back and forth to each other. My guy hates using condoms and I am on the pill, so he doesn’t see the need to use them. Please help. 

— Never-Ending Problem, Fort Garry

Dear Never-Ending: Up the ante by asking your physician to make an appointment with a gynecologist for you. Since this has been going on a long time, your physician will probably be on board with your request. And take your boyfriend to the appointment. Your guy needs to talk with the doctor as well, because without his co-operation, it’s not going to clear up. It may require both of you to beat this chronic infection problem, but the end result will be a happy sex life again. 

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I took my wife to a class reunion and she was pretty much ignored until a classmate’s husband struck up a big conversation with her. They’re both smokers so they went outside together a few times.

Finally, they were gone so long, I went outside and discovered they were engaged in a kiss. I almost plowed the guy. We went home immediately, before the dance that night, and my wife says it wasn’t her fault. She says I ignored her so much in the afternoon with other ladies that she had to find another “friend” herself.

Hot kissing a “friend?” I can understand her feeling left out, but did she have to go that far to prove her point? We are barely speaking and I don’t know what to do or say. I’m in the right, and the injured party, but she is in denial over that. Please help. 

— Reunion Casualty, Winnipeg

Dear Reunion Casualty: She must have heard that old saying: “The best defence is a good offence.” She knows she’s the guilty one, but it seems to be working with you when she denies it. Could it be it was a revenge kiss for all the chatting with old “friends” at the reunion activities and didn’t really mean anything at all?

Here’s an idea: ignore it as if it never happened and she will feel that it’s suddenly of no importance to you. That may tick her off. Too bad! At least you’re on an equal footing again.

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I’m in my early 80s and have two women at my retirement home chasing me every day at supper in the dining room. They know I have no money, but that doesn’t seem to hold them back. I also told them I will never marry again and have an enlarged picture of my darling wife on the wall to prove my everlasting love. I am waiting to join her when I go.

It’s getting embarrassing because these women try to sit with me at the dining tables, and they are quite cutting with each other. That means I don’t like either one of them very much! I hear their sharp tongues, and I shudder to think of living with either one of them. My wife was a doll, with never a mean word for anybody. How do I get rid of both of them? I hate being the unwilling prize in a competition. 

— Needing An Escape, Winnipeg

Dear Needing: You could get a platonic friend to come visit and eat with you in the dining room, and then pretend she’s your girlfriend. That may be enough to cool them off. But remember, you’ll have to play along convincingly to get rid of your supper stalkers.

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