New man felt threatened by woman’s string of exes

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This article was published 08/11/2018 (2540 days ago), so information in it may no longer be current.

DEAR MISS LONELYHEARTS: I was sitting at home with my boyfriend when I got a call from an ex-boyfriend I am still friends with. I always stay friends with my exes, and why not? They were very important to me at one time, and they’re good people.

I had a few others ring me that evening. I took the call, and my boyfriend got up off the sofa, grabbed the phone and told this guy to stop calling, saying I was his girlfriend now.

I grabbed the phone back, and told my ex to stay on the line. Then I put the phone down and told my boyfriend to leave. He said, “I can hardly wait!”

My ex heard everything and asked if he could come over to comfort me. I was so mad I said OK, and he came over.

Apparently, my new guy went down to our favourite bar, got drunk and loud and told everybody I have a string of exes I’m still having sex with.

One of my girlfriends heard him and called me.

Guess who showed up drunk two hours later in my apartment building foyer? I wouldn’t let him in, of course, and he was yelling, “Who’s in there? Have you got some guy in there?” My caretaker heard him and threatened to call the cops, and he left.

Now, he keeps calling me at home and I won’t answer. I don’t want to change my number — all my old friends have it. What can I do?

— Totally Harassed, Downtown

Dear Harassed: Most angry ex-boyfriends don’t persevere after they’ve been blocked unless they’re drunk. Talk to your phone provider and block his number all the same. Yes, he can get a new number and try to get through, but his name will pop up to warn you.

Call a lawyer and/or the police if you are getting repeated calls and feel you’re being seriously harassed.

Now, here’s a little advice you won’t be expecting: it’s not cool to have a lot of exes calling after you’ve broken up with them, particularly when you take their calls in front of the new guy. That’s not classy behaviour.

One or two exes might remain friends, but it says more about your ego than anything that you need this lineup.

And, as you know, exes don’t care what time they call, since they don’t feel like respecting some new guy in their place.

Miss Lonelyhearts
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