Carsick blues drive couple apart in bed

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Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I’m sick and tired of riding in the car as a passenger and feeling sick — I don’t get carsick if I’m driving. My husband insists on driving because he’s the man and he’s a better driver. That may be true, but I’m sick because of it. He says I can take nausea pills and go to sleep for all he cares, but he’s going to drive. I hate arriving at our destination feeling stoned and tired from the pills.

Last week, when we were going to make the drive to Winnipeg, he got into the truck and I got into my car and said, “I’ll meet you there.” He looked shocked and we got into a verbal fight.

Then, I took off and he took off after me. He drove behind me all the way to get on my nerves. When we got to Winnipeg, he said sarcastically “There, are you feeling better?” and I said, “Yes, thanks. We can do this all the time now.”

He went into a sulk and has not shown me any affection since then. He is starving me, but I don’t care. I know this is not a good way for a couple to be, but I don’t know what to do. — Old School Couple, Southern Manitoba

Dear Old School: If he always makes the first move in bed, you could make the first move this time, as it’s likely he’s feeling starved too.

If you can solve this by being sexual and pleasant, your next move is to suggest you drive to Winnipeg next time, with him as passenger.

If he says no, just shrug and do it your way again, saying “I don’t plan to be sick again when the easy solution is for me to drive.” Write back and let us know how that goes.

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I know a woman who doesn’t remember me from school. I met her at a club we both belong to and said, “I remember you.” She said, in a cold way, “Well, I don’t remember you.”

I didn’t know how to react. I told her my name and the school where we were classmates, and she said, “Still don’t remember you,” and walked off. How should I behave when I see her at the club? — Feeling Snubbed, Winnipeg

Dear Snubbed: Pretend she has lost her memory, have a private laugh and dismiss her from your mind. You don’t even owe it to her to be friendly,  just civil — which is several shades cooler, but not rude.

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: My mother is sick and miserable to be around. She disagrees with everything and acts spiteful and resentful and sorry for herself.

Her visitors have dwindled down to me and one other family member coming every day. What do you do about a nasty patient in a hospital who turns everybody off? — I’m Disgusted, Myself, St. James

Dear Disgusted: Talk to mom about it. Even though it seems obvious, explain to her what she’s doing and that is why she’s not getting many visitors. 

Tell her it makes you feel uncomfortable when she’s cranky. Let her know it’s a problem you’re trying to solve so she doesn’t lose all her visitors.

If she’s mean to you over this, talk to the nurses. Sometimes they will suggest you come a little less frequently so you don’t totally wear her out.

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