Be the hidden woman no more

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Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I fell in love with a man of a different colour and religion. I don’t notice it when no one else is around, but when we are out together, people do stare. He has met my family and they love him. I have not met his family. He says they will reject me and he couldn’t bear to see that happen to me. He says they might even ask me to leave their house, and leave their son behind! His parents want him to marry within their world.

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Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I fell in love with a man of a different colour and religion. I don’t notice it when no one else is around, but when we are out together, people do stare. He has met my family and they love him. I have not met his family. He says they will reject me and he couldn’t bear to see that happen to me. He says they might even ask me to leave their house, and leave their son behind! His parents want him to marry within their world.

He’s in love with me, but he is very family-oriented. I am the hidden woman and I hate it. What do you suggest?

— Is He Ashamed Of Me? West End

 

Dear Is He Ashamed: Stop putting up with the situation. You’re no longer a hidden woman if you refuse to be hidden and walk away, or if you refuse to stay hidden and demand an introduction. Then you may become the “forbidden” woman, but you will no longer feel ashamed — just angry! Frankly, this fellow doesn’t sound like he’s strong enough for this situation. He has not said a word to his parents in how long?

A man who wants a “mixed” relationship or marriage has to be able to stand up to his parents and society when racism rears its head. He sounds weak. How long do you want to waste on him? He’s not mature and tough enough to fight with his parents and lay out his boundaries for their interference in his life. Maybe underneath, he wants what they want!

 

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