Patients checking out hot doctor angers wife

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Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: My husband is a good-looking doctor who has two different women who come on to him at his practice. There have been others over the years. He tells me about it, so he’s not hiding anything. Today I told him I won’t have to hear about it anymore because he is going to voluntarily drop them as patients. He said he can’t do that. I say he can. He says, “What will I say to them, and what if they reverse the situation in revenge and say terrible things about me? It has happened to other doctors.”

What do you think? Is he giving me a cock-and-bull story? Why should he keep these patients and why doesn’t he dump them? — Long-Suffering Doctor’s Wife, Winnipeg

Dear Long-Suffering Doctor’s Wife: This happens to lot of physicians, psychiatrists and psychologists, but they have ways of blocking the hints and subtle or not-so-subtle moves of a patient on the prowl. Your husband acts in a professional manner, can handle himself and finds it comforting to be able to tell you about it. Wouldn’t you be more threatened if he felt he couldn’t speak of it, and he was alone dealing with the inappropriate words or moves of these patients? Apparently not.

He now has the choice of telling the two women not to come back and explaining why, or keeping the two of them and lying to you. Here’s another idea: ask him to take the nurse in with him as protection when these predators arrive. They will start to come to the office a lot less once they find out there will be a kind of security guard in the room protecting your husband and giving you peace of mind. If one or both flirts protest, your husband can claim it’s a new practice in his office and that’s that.

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: This is in response to Always Second Best, who had a crush on her sister’s husband before her sister kicked him out after learning about a long-term affair he had with another woman. What a disgusting and selfish human being she is. There really is such a thing as the “girl code,” never mind the sister code.

You told her to cry it out, see a counsellor and talk it all out. Yes, you are right, she should see a counsellor, but not to get over her sister’s husband, but to help her be a better friend, sister and person! She is crying? How in the world does she think her sister feels? Cry for your sister and her children and get over yourself!

This woman always secretly wished bad on her sister, never once asking her how she is doing, and now she can’t even look at her. But if she would have taken him away from her sister, he would no longer be that “cheating jerk” right? Yuck! This whole scenario made me sick to read. What a disgusting person she is. She needs help fast and I hope her sister finds out!

— Disgusted, Winnipeg

Dear Disgusted: A sister, especially a younger one, gets a crush on the man her sister is dating or married to more than you realize. This sister you think is so disgusting didn’t chase after the man, although she longed for him. She nursed a forbidden crush for years. Then the guy turns out to have been cheating on her sister all that time. Prince Charming really was a frog after all. So yes, she does have some pain, disappointment and shame, and needs a counsellor to talk to.

How bad was she to have feelings for her sister’s husband and not act on them? She just had a lot of jealousy and pain and longing to endure; far worse are those women who actively cheat with their sister’s mates.

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