Leering landlord is creeping her out

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This article was published 09/05/2019 (2701 days ago), so information in it may no longer be current.

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I feel uncomfortable around my landlord. I’m a young woman and he’s an older man. While he doesn’t say anything inappropriate, he always seems to want to do work in my suite — like endless painting to “refresh” the walls. Right. I catch him leering at me all the time. I say “leering” because he’s just staring at my body, and I’ve even had to say something to make him stop.

I don’t feel threatened, but I do feel like he’s way too comfortable with staring at me, and now it seems like he just makes up reasons to fix my apartment and be around me. What do you think?

— Leered At, Winnipeg

Dear Leered At: Get in touch with the management and tell them what you are noticing and feeling, and that it’s frequent. There’s no need for your landlord to be endlessly fixing things in your place and ogling your body.

Reporting it may be enough to make him stop, as he may not want to lose his job. If it doesn’t stop, then go down to the agency and raise a fuss. Insist someone else service your suite and get a phone number for that person to use directly.

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I fooled around and fell in love! She didn’t. She just had a great time with me in Europe. In fact, she had a wonderful time and, because I was so enamoured, I did a lot for her above and beyond great sex and spending a lot of money on her.

I asked her before I left how she felt about me and she said she thought I was “a great guy and travelling companion.” No words of “love” or even “like.” She had a stranglehold on my heart!

— Hurt and Disappointed, Transcona

Dear Hurt: You didn’t lose at love because she didn’t have it to offer. It’s not just about how well you treat someone that determines their feelings. Who knows? Someone who behaved badly could have won her heart.

Some people actually prefer a jerk who provides some fights and “excitement.” Perhaps you were too nice, but it doesn’t matter. You weren’t the right person for her, so you weren’t a fit. Good to know that now. Taking a vacation together helped weed out this wrong woman.

Want to get over this quickly? Send all your vacation photos over to her so you don’t stare at them. Don’t talk to friends about it too much.

Now, get “way too busy” and don’t carry your phone. You don’t need to talk to her or do her any favours. Don’t let her casually toy with your heart. Enough of her!

Please send your questions and comments to lovecoach@hotmail.com or Miss Lonelyhearts c/o the Winnipeg Free Press, 1355 Mountain Ave., Winnipeg, MB, R2X 3B6.

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